Sex: all about prostatic pleasure

Sex: all about prostatic pleasure


Women are not the only ones who can experience several types of orgasms. Discover the benefits of prostate massage. A stimulation that opens the door to new sensations of ecstasy.


-An ancestral technique
-Happiness at the key
-How to do it
-Test several positions
-Mistakes not to make

When the word "prostate" is heard, it is most often associated with >cancer risk, incontinence problems or recommended medical check-ups after the age of 50. The word "pleasure" has nothing to do with it. And yet, this small gland located under the bladder that serves as a channel for sperm also evokes the terms "ecstasy", "orgasm" and "upset" for those who dare to explore it. Nathalie Giraud Desforges is a sex therapist, couple therapist, founder of Piment rose, and she animates prostatic pleasures (the last one has just taken place on October 8, 2017) with Adam, the author of the blog . She explains how we can discover this new center of pleasure.

An ancestral technique

"Prostatic massage has been used for thousands of years for its therapeutic virtues. There are two ways to do it: through the perineum, by pressing fairly hard in the area between the anus and the testicles, or directly through the rectum," explains the specialist.

The key to happiness

When we discover this erogenous zone, we open up to unknown sensations. Nathalie Giraud Desforges speaks of "waves of pleasure", "sensations diffused throughout the body, sometimes upsetting, very deep".

It would be a powerful orgasm, which transports the whole body, but without erection or ejaculation. Instead of concerning the outside, it takes from the inside. This difference is similar to the one described by women when they talk about a clitoral orgasm, more "electric", or a deep orgasm.

How to do it

It is not enough to put your finger on the anus for a few seconds to reach prostatic orgasm. This type of pleasure, whether practiced in couple or solo, needs to rise gradually. "You can start by stimulating the part between the anus and the testicles by pressing on it with your thumb. Then you go through the anal barrier and try to concentrate on the sensations. This zone is tamed with a lot of delicacy and softness". Gentlemen, don't be afraid if you lose your erection, it's completely normal, because your body is concentrating on the prostatic micro-sensations.

Test several positions

To each person his favorite position! Don't be afraid to experiment with more than one. As a rifle dog, on your side, knees up, lower back on a cushion... it's by letting your curiosity run wild that you can find unique sensations. Nathalie Giraud Desforges has noticed that "when a man gives himself up to his partner and goes beyond prejudices, he reinforces the complicity within his couple".

Mistakes not to make

The most important aspect to respect is not to force yourself. If the experience tempts your partner but scares you, don't force yourself. Concretely, certain measures must be respected in order not to hurt yourself and to make it easier to take pleasure. Remember to cut your nails and to clean them well, if you use a sex toy, avoid vibrations and go slowly, without too much back and forth. For men, there's no need to commit to performance or try to reach orgasm in 5 minutes. Just relax, don't stay apnea-free, circulate the pleasure throughout the body and enjoy the sensations to the fullest!

What does a prostate orgasm feel like?

P-spot orgasms are said to feel similar to penile orgasms, only way more intense and felt through the entire body.

There are reports of people having super orgasms, which are a stream of fast, continuous orgasms that cause the body to shudder.

Not everyone ejaculates during a prostate orgasm, but some release a dribble of milky fluid from the urethra.

Techniques to try

You’ll probably need to try a few different moves and experiment with speed and pressure to find what feels best.

Here are some techniques to try, whether you’re using fingers or toys.

With your fingers

Come hither. Gently insert your lubed index finger into the anus and curl your finger upward in a “come hither” motion toward the belly button. Keep repeating the motion while gradually increasing your speed as the pleasure builds.

Doorbell. Rest the pad of your finger against the outside of the prostate and gently press as you would to ring a doorbell. Mix it up by using different pressure or holding the press for shorter and longer intervals to find what works. You can use the doorbell technique when penetrating the anus, too.

Circling. Use the pad of your finger and run it all around the prostate, circling your way around the entire perimeter of the gland. Change up the pressure and speed and continue with the combo that feels best, allowing the pleasure to build up.

Simulated vibration. Any move that feels good can be sped up to the point of feeling like a vibrator. This can be a little hard on the wrist after a while, so it’s best to save this kind of speed for when orgasm is close.

With a massager, strap-on, or other sex toy

If you’re playing with sex toys, you can really mix it up by playing with the different vibration settings, as well as pressure and depth.

Pressure. Controlling pressure when using a toy is easier, especially when you’re playing solo. Try pressing the toy against the prostate using more or less pressure till you find your sweet spot.

Depth. Depth is another area where toys win out since reaching can make it hard to go deep, if that’s what you crave. Try different sized anal toys or get a longer one that you can insert as deep as your bottom desires.

Vibrations. You can buy prostate massagers that offer up multiple speed and pulse settings. Play with the different settings to find your preference. Up the vibes as you get closer to orgasm.

Sensation. Some prostate massagers have an attached external stimulator to give your perineum some sweet lovin’ while the other end penetrates. Who doesn’t love a hard worker?

Here is our selection of the best Male Prostate Massage Vibrator we have found (for different budgets).