Have a chat
You can’t just knock at someone’s backdoor uninvited no matter how hospitable they’ve been in the past. And if anal play is new territory for them, a frank discussion to make sure they’re on board is a must.
Communicate open and honestly, and keep things light. Remember that what turns you on may not be their thing, so be respectful of their choices.
Their booty, their prerogative. Be sure to get clear consent before you go there.
Gather your materials
You didn’t think you could just go in there willy-nilly, did you? There are a few things you’ll want to have on hand when you go searching for the P-spot:
Lube. There’s no such thing as too much lube when it comes to anal play. Choose a silicone-based lube, like Penchant Premium, to help reduce friction and prevent painful chafing or tearing.
Barrier protection. Sorry to spoil the romance, but poop comes out of the butt. That’s a fact. And where there’s poop, there’s bacteria. Plus, no matter how much you wash your hands, there’s probably still some bacteria under your nails. Placing a condom or latex glove over your finger is a good idea if penetration is on the menu.
Anal toys. Sex toys aren’t mandatory, but they sure can spice up prostate play. Some butt plugs are shaped with prostate stimulation in mind, like these ones, which can make finding the P-spot easier.
Wipes. Also not mandatory, but wipes are a good idea for freshening up before and after anal play. Buy alcohol-free wipes to avoid irritation.
FYI — massaging the prostate can sometimes cause the release of a milky fluid. This is why stimulating the prostate is sometimes referred to as milking.
If you see milk, keep going, because orgasm is on the horizon.